Self-confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of
our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Sadly, this can be a vicious
circle: people who lack self-confidence can find it difficult to become
successful. Initially our residents are a nervous, fumbling, and overly
apologetic lot. On the other hand, after completing the treatment they are someone
who speaks clearly, who holds his or her head high, who answers questions
assuredly, and who readily admits when he or she does not know something.
To instill
the life skills of self-esteem and assertiveness in our residents, Shafa Home has noted corporate trainer, Ms.Maheshwari
take regular sessions at our Delhi facility centre. On 5th February
Mahi, took an energetic and flamboyant session on building self- esteem.
According to Mahi, confident people inspire confidence in others: their
audience, their peers, their bosses, their customers, and their friends. And
gaining the confidence of others is one of the key ways in which a
self-confident person finds success.
We gain a sense of self-efficacy when
we see ourselves (and others similar to ourselves) mastering skills and
achieving goals that matter in those skill areas. This is the confidence that,
if we learn and work hard in a particular area, we'll succeed; and it's this
type of confidence that leads people to accept difficult challenges, and
persist in the face of setbacks. This overlaps with the idea of self-esteem, which is a more
general sense that we can cope with what's going on in our lives, and that we
have a right to be happy. Partly, this comes from a feeling that the people
around us approve of us, which we may or may not be able to control. However,
it also comes from the sense that we are behaving virtuously, that we're
competent at what we do, and that we can compete successfully when we put our
minds to it.
The first
activity in the session involved
residents being divided into smaller groups. Then, using a roll of toilet
paper, residents were told to pluck a sheet from the roll each time a resident
extolled his virtue. At the end of the sessions, the residents were able to see
their stack of tissues pile up. This activity was on building self-esteem
through self affirmations. In the next activity, the residents were taken through
a cathartic exercise. By writing down on sheet of paper all the things that had
hurt them that they wanted to forget… Mahi promised the residents a magic trick
for doing so. After writing it all down, they just had to crumple the sheet and
throw it away. This exercise was a much needed one for our residents. To move
ahead in life, they must unlearn something, they must learn to let go of the
past to build a future.
At Shafa Home, we believe that
it's just as important to build self-confidence by setting and achieving goals
– there by building competence.
Without this underlying competence, our residents don't have self-confidence: they
have shallow over-confidence, with all of the issues, upset and failure that
this brings. Self-confidence is about balance. At one extreme, we have people
with low self-confidence. At the other end, we have people who may be
over-confident.
If we are
under-confident, we’ll avoid taking risks and stretching ourselves; and we
might not try at all. And if we’re over-confident, we may take on too much
risk, stretch ourselves beyond our capabilities, and crash badly. Getting this
right is a matter of having the right amount of confidence, founded in reality
and on our true ability. With the right amount of self-confidence, our
residents will take informed risks, stretch themselves (but not beyond their
abilities) and try hard.
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