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Friday, August 29, 2014


Even though you may realise that you need to get clean, the thought of sobriety can be scary. Here are the most common fears, and tips for overcoming them.

Major life changes of any kind add stress to life. Compounding such stress is the fear of the changes themselves. This is certainly true of recovery, where fear of sobriety can be a major obstacle to becoming sober. In this blog, we will explore common fears of sobriety and how to handle them.

#1: Fear of Sobriety : It may seem counter-intuitive, but sobriety itself can induce fear. As the saying goes, better the devil you know, meaning that what we are familiar with is more comfortable than the unknown. Facing sobriety is a major unknown, so even when we recognise the benefits, a lot of fear can come up.
How to handle it: To overcome fear of sobriety, two strategies are helpful. First, acknowledging the fear can go a long way towards dispelling it. Second, focus on the benefits of being sober.

#2: Fear of Failure : This fear focuses on whether or not your attempt at sobriety will fail. You may have tried to clean up your act in the past, and it didn't work. Or it may be the first time you are attempting to get clean. In either case, choosing sobriety has within it the potential for failure, and with it the fear of failure.
How to handle it: Facing this fear involves acknowledging it, and then building confidence in your ability to succeed based on strategies and resources gained in recovery treatment. It is possible that you may fail. And yet, resolving to be successful is a key to success. Knowing how to be successful will go great lengths in resolving this fear.

#3: Fear of Success: The fear of success is the flipside to the fear of failure. While fearing failure revolves around not believing you can succeed, fearing success focuses on your lack of value as a person who deserves success. You may believe that because of who you are, or because of your past, you cannot be successful.
How to Handle It: Understand that everyone is capable and deserving of sobriety. You are not alone in feeling this fear, and others can support you through this challenge. So, seek out support from people in your life, and this will help you believe in your ability to succeed.

#4: Fear of Rejection: When we make changes to our life, our old friends may not value these changes. This is particularly true in the case of addiction, where a large part of social bonding occurs around substance use. You may therefore fear the rejection of your old friends.
How to Handle It: Make new friends through recovery. Choosing a sober lifestyle means making many changes to your activities, and your social relationships will also change. Embrace these changes and the benefits they bring to your life, and value the new friends you make.

#5: Fear of Losing Identity: Alcoholics and others with addiction have their identity meshed with their addiction. So, when becoming sober, it means changing a part of how they think about themselves. This can invoke fear, as who you are changes and old parts of your identity are absolved.
How to Handle It: Redefine yourself in recovery with the support of your community. It is also beneficial to think about who you really want to be, and your ability to become that person.

#6: Fear of Suffering: Addiction brings its own brand of suffering to your life. However, getting clean does not mean that your life will suddenly become a fairy tale happy ending. On the contrary, remaining sober involves maturely facing life's challenges without escaping through substance use. As a result, there can be a lot of fear of the suffering that naturally occurs in life.
How to Handle It: See how, as you face life sober, you grow as a person. The process of recovery is about growth, and there are challenges in this process. Believe in your ability to face them. Becoming sober will give you the confidence to face most challenges in life, so long as you remain sober.

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Thursday, August 28, 2014

Silencing the suffering by seeking the golden fruit of self-sufficiency :SHAFA HOME’s visit to Chetanalaya.

On Tuesday 19th August 2014, SHAFA HOME proudly sent two of its ambassadors; senior social worker, Ms. Sangeeta and media team executive Neelabh to Seemapuri in New Delhi. They attended the Chetanalaya centre to give a succinct and flavoursome discourse regarding SHAFA HOME’s unique modalities and key principles within the treatment of substance abuse. Chetanalaya is a multi-faceted organisation which endeavours to aid and uplift deprived members of society i.e. the “slum-dwellers”.
Slum dwellers endure the brunt of daily life with neither basic necessities nor optimum living conditions to support healthy living. This is coupled with a gaping absence of counseling and emotional support.  With whom can they share their woes?  These people were later met with the outstretched hand of Chetanalaya!
Chetanalaya breaks cleanly away from the typical social ignorance of the destitute by altruistically giving physical, financial and emotional help to let the individual build a hopeful, productive and sustainable future for themselves.
Ms. Sangeeta’s presentation discussed how SHAFA’s treatment programme successfully overcomes perceived helplessness, inadequacy and low self-esteem. The women quickly noticed how there was a striking common principle between SHAFA HOME with their Chetanalaya – the concept of “hands-on” learning.
Members of a suffering community are taught strategies that intend to boost the self-esteem of that ailing individual in order to generate self-empowerment and self-sufficiency. Once an individual has been trained at Chetanalaya, they venture out into their wider community as outreach workers who strive to help those in need like they were once before – thus keeping a continuous chain of guidance and help in motion.

Ms. Sangeeta chipped in with her own two cents to add that SHAFA HOME firmly practices this notion too! Our younger residents learn their behavioural and life skill “training” from their older siblings. Once they feel adept enough, they teach their younger siblings what they have learnt.  
The 20 female community workers who attended Ms. Sangeeta’s presentation had entered the doors of Chetanalaya as hapless, broken individuals and over time, had become resilient towards life’s hardest knocks. In doing so, they gradually achieved a self-sustainable, productive and positive life through providing service to others. The key thing is never an overnight process. What these women had to endure to emerge as the shining, strong sisters they are today required patience, effort and dedication to “fly-right”.
Just take a step back and imagine...if these amazing women have managed to progress exponentially within their own lives by overcoming their strife and misery in the darkest times, there is nothing to stop our residents from overcoming their personal hurdles and achieving groundbreaking personal growth within their own lives.

Ultimately, self-empowerment is the key that unlocks us into a dynamic and successful mode of living. By helping others, we are practicing the most honourable form of self-love and for ourselves but also the world around us. After all, if you want to keep have to give it away.    

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