Shafa

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Thursday, February 26, 2015

Forgiving, Letting Go and Moving Ahead in Life with Mr. Kishore Vij in Kotdwar

Mr. Kishore Vij; our log time well wisher and practitioner of Pranic Healing visited Kotdwar facility centre on 21st February for the spiritual healing of our residents.
In this session Mr. Vij focussed on Healing Power of Forgiveness. Letting go of the past is one tough act for majority of our residents. They cling on to the memories of addiction laden days; to relationships gone stagnant. Mr. Vij led our residents on an exercise where each wrote the name of the person they wanted to forget and forgive on a piece of paper. After wards in the session, these sheets were burned simultaneously chanting the forgiveness prayer.
Mr. Vij then explained to our residents the importance of letting go. Sometimes, we hold on to people purely based on how long we have known them. Time can tie people together, but if you feel as though there’s nothing substantial keeping you connected, time is not a strong enough reason to hold on to something that’s simply no longer worth holding onto. We grow complacent with people once we’re comfortable with them. But, hanging onto someone for the pure sake of it and because you don’t know anything else isn’t a good enough reason. Fear is another reason why we can’t move on. There’s the fear of being alone and not being able to find someone else; fear of someone using our deepest and darkest secrets as blackmail; fear of the hate and tension that will ensue; fear of regret once someone is gone.
Sometimes, things are better left as mere memories. You can try to change things back to how they were or try to create things to be the way you want them, but you’ll never be truly happy because it’ll never be anything like how things once were. If anything, there’s now too much pressure and expectation in the air to recreate what you once had. Instead, hold on to and cherish the memories, but move forward. Be thankful for what a friendship or relationship brought you and taught you.
Beyond that, friendships and relationships — whilst they do have their downfalls and can require fixing — should essentially come naturally. If a person isn’t bringing something significant to your life, not treating you how you’d like or isn’t the type of person you want him or her to be, it’s a clear sign that you need distance. While it would be selfish of you to not accept a person for whom he or she is, it would be unfair for you to have to endure a friendship or relationship that isn’t cultivating a better you.

In these Pranic Healing sessions, our residents our not only coming to terms with the changes in their lives but they also are showing spiritual enlightenment. All thanks to the constant and tireless efforts of Mr. Kishore Vij along with the staff at Shafa Home’s Kotdwar facility centre.


Saturday, February 21, 2015

Interactive session on Developing Life Skills and Self Awareness in Kotdwar

On 18th and 19th February, Ms. Sangeeta took an interactive educational session on “Developing Self Awareness ” in Kotdwar. Ms. Sangeeta enlightened our residents about Self Awareness through power point presentations,  ‘The Johari Window’ model and concluded the sessions with activities on life skills. According to Ms. Sangeeta, Self Awareness is having a clear perception of our personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Self Awareness allows us to understand other people, how they perceive us, our attitude and our responses to them in the moment.
We might quickly assume that we are self aware, but it is helpful to have a relative scale for awareness. If you have ever been in an auto accident you may have experienced everything happening in slow motion and noticing details of your thought process and the event. This is a state if heightened awareness. With practice we can learn to engage these types of heightened states and see new opportunities for interpretations in our thoughts, emotions, and conversations.

Sangeeta ji broke down  the Johari Window model of Self Awareness into simpler two different types, either public or private.
Public Self-Awareness: This type emerges when people are aware of how they appear to others. Public self-awareness often emerges in situations when people are at the center of attention, such as when giving a presentation or talking to a group of friends. This type of self-awareness often compels people to adhere to social norms. When we are aware that we are being watched and evaluated, we often try to behave in ways that are socially acceptable and desirable. Public self-awareness can also lead to evaluation anxiety in which people become distressed, anxious, or worried about how they are perceived by others.
Private Self-Awareness: This type happens when people become aware of some aspects of themselves, but only in a private way. For example, seeing your face in the mirror is a type of private self-awareness. Feeling your stomach lurch when you realize you forgot to study for an important test or feeling your heart flutter when you see someone you are attracted to are also good examples of private self-awareness.
Our residents then joined in an activity aimed at identifying their own Self Awareness using johari Window. The aim of this session was to enable our residents to develop Self Awareness. As we develop self awareness we are able to make changes in the thoughts and interpretations we make in our mind. Changing the interpretations in our mind allows us to change our emotions. Self awareness is the first step in creating what we want and mastering it. Where we focus our attention, our emotions, reactions, personality and behavior determine where we go in life.

Having self awareness allows us to see where our thoughts and emotions are taking us. It also allows us to see the controls of our emotions, behavior, and personality so we can make changes we want. Until we are aware in the moment of the controls to our thoughts, emotions, words, and behavior, we will have difficulty making changes in the direction of our life.