Friday, February 26, 2016

6 Obstacles You Must Overcome For Sustainable Sobriety

There are no quick-fix ways for how to get sober fast, and there is not one simple formula for staying sober either. But whether you are looking to get sober or maintain your current state of sobriety, there are definite obstacles that must be overcome, and goals that must be set (and met) for your greatest chance at success, and they are as follows:

1. Get honest with yourself.
Let us start with our first bit of honesty; Addicts lie. They lie to themselves, they lie to friends and family members, and they lie to colleagues. They lie to preserve their addiction and avoid confrontation, they lie out of shame and denial, and they lie out of a fear of reality.
In the depths of addiction, lying to yourself about the severity of the problem is very common. And of course, accepting the fact that you have a problem is the first step to getting the help and treatment that you need. But recovering addicts lie in sobriety as well. Many will tell themselves that they are fine now, that they can go back to old friends, old hangouts and be completely comfortable without using drugs or having a drink. This is very rarely the actual case. The desire in these cases to get back to a ‘normal life' may be overpowering the truth that is deep down inside — you cannot go back to those places without desires to use.
Being honest with yourself is scary, but you need to have faith that deep down inside you really do know what you need — whether you like what the answer is or not. Being honest is difficult, but it is incredibly important for sustainable sobriety.

2. Have an open, creative mind.
You may be able to get sober without an open mind, but an open mind is necessary for lasting sobriety. For addicts new to recovery, sobriety is a scary thought. It is an entirely new world. You have to find new ways to fill your time, and new places to make your hangouts. Literally everything has changed around you, and it is this feeling that can often spiral addicts into relapse.
Having an open mind, however, can help you ease into this new world a little bit easier. Counsellors and sponsors may suggest things to you that at the time you feel are completely unrelated to recovery. But listen to them. Try everything they suggest. Come at all new things with an open mind. Yes, it will be easier to push these new ideas away, but that type of mindset will set you up to struggle with and possibly fail at sobriety.

3. Overcome complacency.
All too often, recovering addicts fall into a life of complacency. They are no longer using drugs or alcohol, but they are no longer growing as a person either. Complacency can often result in relapse if unattended.
Think of it this way: If you sit around all day smoking cigarettes, eating junk food and watching TV, you might not be using drugs or alcohol, but you are not bettering your life in any way either. If instead you get outside, eat healthy, get physically fit, join some classes or engage in some hobbies — you are less likely to relapse because you have ‘farther to fall' so to speak. Being motivated to grow as a person each and every day will make you less likely to slip back into negative routines.

4. Learn to communicate.
As addicts spiral further into their addictions, they distance themselves from those close to them. They cover up their emotions with drugs and/or alcohol, and essentially remove themselves from most meaningful relationships. In an essence, they have lost proper communication skills. In some cases, the addict did not have these skills in the first place, which drew them into substance abuse as a way of self-medicating.

Almost all relapses come from a moment of raw emotion — from anger, frustration or sadness — and in order to avoid saying ‘screw it' and turn to drugs or alcohol for comfort, it is important that you learn to talk through your problems. Whether you call your sponsor, counsellor or close friend, learning good communication skills can be the difference between relapse and sobriety.

5. Be committed.
Nobody said that addiction recovery was going to be easy. If you truly want to get and stay sober, you need to be willing to put in the work. That means going to a meeting instead of watching your favourite TV programme. It means saying good-bye to old friends who are still using. It means every single day from here on out, focusing on recovery. Yes, it will get easier with time. But it is a continuous process that will last a lifetime.

6. Want it.
You are the only person who can make the changes needed for lasting sobriety. Getting sober because someone else wants you to is a good reason to start the road to recovery, but lasting sobriety will only come when it is something you really want. Write down all the ways in which your life will improve if you succeed and post it on your bathroom mirror or keep it in your wallet. Whenever you feel yourself on the brink of giving up, remember the reasons you started this journey in the first place.

Addiction Treatment Centers can Help
For those already living in sobriety, the above can serve as a guide or daily reminder to what you need to focus on in recovery. For those who are still in the throes of addiction, it is a good idea to speak to an alcohol and drug rehab facility to see how they can assist in the path to recovery. For most addicts, a complete treatment programme like Shafa Home is the only road to recovery.

Shafa Home is country’s premier organization for treatment of alcohol/drug problems, de-addiction, rehabilitation, counseling, treatment for females, nasha mukti, psychiatric disorders and secondary addictions like gambling, internet etc.

 (These articles are the sole property of “The Cabin Chiang Mai”, they are its original authors.)

Wednesday, February 24, 2016

Taking Care of Yourself While Caring For a Drug Addict

Taking Care of Yourself While Caring For a Drug Addict
When someone you love is suffering from addiction or trying to succeed in addiction recovery, it is normal to want to help. But in order to efficiently help the addict, you must first take care of yourself.
When someone you love is suffering from a drug addiction or going through recovery you want to help in any way possible. However, if you are not caring for your own physical, emotional, and spiritual needs it is very difficult to help someone else. This is especially true when it comes to trying to help the drug addict in your life, as it is a stressful, heart-breaking, and exhausting endeavor.
The following tips can help you care for yourself while trying to care for someone you love who is dealing with addiction as well as recognizing the difference between ‘helping' and ‘enabling,' so that you and the drug addict you love have the greatest chance of being and getting well.

Tips for Taking Care of Yourself when you Love a Drug Addict
The agony faced by those who care for an addict is great. You may worry each day that your loved one will end up either in jail or dead. Unfortunately, you have no control over the life or choices of your loved one. You can, however, choose how you care for your own life — so that you can be of the best help to them.
1. Exercise
Exercise is important for everyone, but can be particularly helpful for dealing with stress — which anyone who loves a drug addict has a lot of. Find something you enjoy and do it even if it’s for a short periods of time. Follow a yoga video on YouTube, take a 10 minute walk in your neighborhood, or join a fun aerobic dance class. Whatever it is, moving your body is good for you and will help clear your mind.
2. Eat well
It can be easy to neglect healthy eating habits, but caring for yourself means caring for your body. Avoid too many high-fat and sugary foods which will slow you down and compromise your overall health. Make sure you are getting the nutrients you need by eating plenty of fruits and vegetables. The fact that eating well can also help reduce stress could be a good incentive to priorities a balanced diet.
3. Sleep well
It can be difficult to sleep well when you are worrying about the drug addict in your life. However, sleep is an important aspect of physical health and mental well-being so make getting enough sleep a priority. Practice a healthy sleep routine and do not sacrifice getting 8 hours of sleep every night.
4. Do something you love
Doing something you love will help you find balance in your life and bring joy into difficult times. Reengage in old hobbies you once enjoyed or find a new one. Make a point to designate days or times that are solely for you to do anything that you enjoy.
5. Understand that self-care is not selfish
Too many people get these two ideas confused and mistakenly believe that by putting their own needs first they are being selfish. Taking care of your physical and mental health by spending time doing things you love and prioritizing your eating, exercise, and sleep habits is not selfish and is in fact necessary if you want to have the energy to help someone else.
6. Learn about addiction
One of the best things you can do in your quest to help a drug addict is to learn as much as you can about the effects of drug addiction. Educating yourself about addiction and recovery will allow you to deal more compassionately and effectively with the drug addict in your life, which in turn will lower your level of stress.
7. Avoid self-blame
You cannot control another person's decisions. Nor can you force them to change. You did not cause the addiction, and blaming yourself will only hinder both your own and the addict's ability to be well.
8. Recognise and stop enabling behaviours
This may be the most difficult task that those who want to help and care for a drug addict face. It can be very difficult to recognise that much of what you are doing to ‘help' an addict is actually enabling their addiction. As hard as it can be to see your loved one struggle, giving them money, letting them live with you while they are still using, and making excuses for their behaviour are all actions that allow the addiction to continue and shield the addict from facing the consequences of their addiction. It will feel counterintuitive, but to help an addict you must recognise and stop all enabling behaviours.
9. Ask for help and join support activities
The best thing you can do to help yourself if you love a drug addict is to reach out for support. Seek your own personal counseling, join a support group or meet a counselor, or join online communities that offer support for families of addicts. Although it can feel very lonely, you are not alone in your pain and there are many people who can help you learn how to best help an addict you love.

Remember that Addiction Recovery is Possible
There are millions of people worldwide who have successfully recovered from an addiction. Never give up hope and always let the drug addict in your life know that you love them and believe in them and you are willing to help them get into treatment, or actively work on recovery when they are ready.
You can do your best to get your loved one into treatment by working with professional addiction counsellors to stage an intervention. An intervention is a carefully planned meeting between friends and family members and the drug addict with the goal of getting them into the appropriate treatment. Even if an intervention or treatment has failed in the past, each exposure to alcohol or drug rehab has benefits and will get your family member one step closer to recovery.
Speaking with addiction treatment specialist at Shafa Home can help you understand the options so that when your loved one is ready you know where to send them to get the best care for their addiction.

Shafa Home is country’s premier organization for treatment of alcohol/drug problems, de-addiction, rehabilitation, counseling, treatment for females, nasha mukti, psychiatric disorders and secondary addictions like gambling, internet etc.

(These articles are the sole property of “The Cabin Chiang Mai”, they are its original authors.)

Friday, February 19, 2016

"The Startling Experience of a Trainee with Shafa Home" by Rachna

A new bee at Shama Home, has been given the opportunity to touch upon every flower. This time it was a bigger one, when they trusted me to take me to Dehradun for one day workshop “Nayi Pahal” on Awareness towards De-addiction on 16th of February 2016 to meet the Graduate and post graduate students. Being an outside we could not be the checkers, hence, our major goal was to prepare the change agents as this program has to be taken forward by students themselves. This was successfully met, hence, paving ways for us to work with them in the future course of time.

Early Morning with sleepy eyes we welcomed a new day with a new aisle, from the capital of nation (Delhi) to capital (Dehradun) of God’s own land (Uttrakhand). It felt mystical within but the exteriors didn’t seem much different on the lapse of the two times, with nothing much at view but glances of far laid mountains at times, just made the visit as worth as a lady on seeing her valentine.

It was not just a first visit out of town but a first attempt to address a crowd, of which initially I used to be a part of. I was scared to make the movement but wanted to break free, I was scared to speak and to break free I decided to shout.  From student to Speaker, a drastic thrill, rushed in my veins and I could not chill. Their acceptance of us was shown in many forms, did show that we all do want to break free of certain norms.

Meeting the young adults and being a part of a psycho-educational program, their desire to take the movement forward:  to help their peers and let them know the consequence of addiction, was just enough the acknowledgment. Seeing them all stand tall in front of us was just like a scenic beauty of the mountains that were away and far yet visible. And I left myself there with a promise to come back, to meet those future change makers and make-up for what was in lack. 
------ by Rachna

Wednesday, February 17, 2016

"My Pride...My Feelings- An Experience of a Lifetime by a Recovery Addict "

हाल ही में देहरादून के डॉलफिन इंस्टिट्यूट ऑफ़ बायो मेडिकल साइंसेज ने एडिक्शन के प्रति जागरूकता मुहीम के तहत शफा होम को आमंत्रित किया। इस नई पहल में शफा होम से छह लोगो ने हिस्सा लिया।
पहले से ही बहुत सारे विचार व् भावनाये चल रही थी की इस कार्यक्रम में मेरा क्या रोल होगा? जीवन में पहली बार ऐसे किसी कार्यक्रम का हिस्सा बना था. २००-२५० छात्रों के सामने बोलना, अपने आप का परिचय देना जबकि पिछले १२ महीनो से मेरा परिचय था "मेरा नाम विकास और मै एक नशेबाज। " खैर , आखिर हम डॉलफिन इंस्टिट्यूट पहुंच गए।  अच्छा बड़ा कॉलेज है जिसकी छात्र संख्या २५०० से अधिक है। 
बड़ा ही अदभुत अनुभव था जब हमारी कार मुख्य द्वार पर रुकी, हम कार से उतरे और हमारे स्वागत के लिए  मीडिया भी था और पूजा की थाली लिए छात्र भी तैयार थे।  जब हम अंदर जाने लगे तो टीका हुआ और फ़्लैश चमके। बड़ा ही अनूठा था यह सब। 
बड़ी जबरदस्त फीलिंग चली जब कार्यक्रम शुरू हुआ और स्पीकर ने शफा होम के सदस्यों को मंच पर आमंत्रित किया। सभी के साथ जब मेरा नाम भी लिया गया और मै भी मंच पर बुलाया गया- पहली बार इस तरीके का स्वागत मिला था मुझे और उसपर मुझे गर्व हो रहा था की आज मै शफा फैमिली का हिस्सा हू । 
पूरा कार्यक्रम बड़ा ही सफल रहा। करीब ५:०० बजे कार्यक्रमख़त्म हुआ , ६:३० बजे हम वापस होटल पहुंचे। रूम खोला और मै चेंज कर ही रहा था की मेसेज आया रंजन सर ने सबको अपने रूम पर फीडबैक के लिए बुलाया है , चाय और नाश्ता भी साथ था. सबको सबके गुड पॉइंट और वर्क पॉइंट दिए और बड़ा ही स्वस्थ वार्तालाप रहा ४०-५० मिनट का। मै उस समय कनेक्ट कर पा रहा था की ये तरीके ही तोह हम भूल गए थे हम। कोईं हम ग्रुप कर रहे है तोह पहले विमर्श कितना महत्वपूर्ण है और कितना जरूरी  है उसके बाद का फीडबैक। 
"जीवन में पहली बार शफा से जुड़े होने का मुझे गर्व हो रहा था "..... विकास।