Stop carrying a tortoise for relapse prevention!

Saturday the 26^th of March 2011, was the second fortnightly Family Counseling and Meeting of the month. The topic of the day in continuation to the last family counseling and meeting was ‘relapse prevention - characteristics and factors’.

During the pre-counseling meeting, at Ranjan Ji’s seat, there was a frenzied discussion going on as to what the family’s role should be in relapse prevention. Shipra Ji and Sangeeta Ji were, as usual, thoroughly discussing as to what they were supposed to speak during the counseling. It was said that families always look for a specified set of roles to prevent their ward from relapsing. However, they need to understand that no such book has been written which can stop your loved one from a relapse. As Ranjan Ji said, ‘how many roles can I write down? I cannot stop Mrs. XYZ from bringing his son’s favorite tortoise to the meeting. Although, he has ruined his own life and never cared for his parents but all his parents can think of (even in a treatment center) is enabling him by bringing his favorite one to meet him’.

During the counseling that day, only the characteristics of a relapse could be discussed. It was told that just like treatment, relapse is a process as well. It never happens that a person gets up one fine morning and starts drinking. A relapse is always indicated by gradual changes in the behavior of the individual. A person starts getting irritated, gets up late in the morning, becomes irresponsible and so on and so forth. And, this is the very point where the family needs to come into action. This is where they need to start confronting their loved ones and holding them responsible. Families need to remember always, that it is the individual who is in the process of relapse and the only thing that can stop him is his immediate family with their adequate support system. The family’s role is the most vital during the initial relapse process.

I wasn’t able to make it on Saturday, but can very well comprehend the level of conference amongst the family members (thirty in number) and the councils of Shafa. Being a recovery addict myself, I am getting to know what all is needed to be in recovery and that why the families need to stop carrying the tortoise for relapse prevention. 

Many perceptions broke down – It’s really Shafa!!

‘Many perceptions broke down’, this is what a girl from the Adolescence Education Group, Bachelors of Education, Delhi University said. They were twenty two in number, proud, energetic and would be teachers of our country. The occasion was their visit to Shafa Home on Friday the 18^th of March, 2011. Unlike the earlier crowd, they were quite informal and had the nerve to ask questions one after the other.

The assemblage started with us asking them questions as to ‘what their opinions about an addict were’. Many amongst them shared their own experiences with addicts and addiction. Never during the whole conversation did we try to tell them about the in treatment resident, which was quite contrary to what they had in mind. We wanted them to have a first hand experience of this reformed person, who lives here in this pseudo social setting. They were keen to know an addict in person and had a lot of questions for them too.

Once upstairs the students were divided into smaller groups and each group sat with a resident and spoke to him. Their queries ranged from getting up in a TC till the lights off at night. Some also discussed the reasons of the residents getting into addiction. A question which each and every group asked the residents was, as to whether there was anything in regards to their teacher’s at school which led them to addiction. There were residents from all stages of the treatment and they answered chivalrously changing the very image of the misery filled addict in their minds. Even though the stipulated time finished these students from DU wanted more and more.

Back downstairs was another session of questions and answers with the residents, all of them together now. Once through with the residents it was now Ranjan Ji who took over the assembly and cleared their last tit bits of doubt. The conference got so charged up that even Ravi Ji, who had just returned from his home visit during the session, jumped into answering the inimitable questions of the group.

Their day at Shafa had a late ending at around 6’PM with tea and refreshments. The students looked spent and through. They broke many ill perceptions about an addict, addiction and treatment that day and were ready to become our Torch Bearers in the near future.